Do Ask, Do Tell : Queer Life, Love and Culture Laid Bare

A rollercoaster ride through LGBTQIA2S+ life, love, and culture. From sticky dancefloors to pushing prams, from drag to dealing with hate and homophobia, and from dressing rooms to churches, and schools and this book unboxes the diversity of the queer experience--because there is no right or wrong way to be LGBTQIA2S+. What's the difference between bisexual and pansexual? What does it mean to be femme or masc or 'camp'? How do intersex and asexual people feel about being part of the queer spectrum? Why do darkrooms still exist, and is there such a thing as a lesbian equivalent?

Writers Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley--your intrepid queer explorers--are here to answer these questions and so many more, as they navigate the rich tapestry of LGBTQIA2S+ life, for queer and cis straight people alike. Do Ask. Do Tell is a nuanced insight into all of the things you've often wondered about but have maybe been afraid to ask, for fear of 'getting it wrong.' Ageing, HIV, drag, open relationships, religion, racism, body dysmorphia, hedonism: Lotte and Stu go there--literally and metaphorically as they hit the frontline of queer experiences, and head so far outside of their own comfort zones along the way they need more than a pair of ruby slippers to get them home. They go from sticky dance floors to dressing rooms, churches, schools, retirement homes and exclusive underground sex parties. As a cis-gay man and gender-queer lesbian the authors know that their own lived experience represents the equivalent of a single pixel of the rainbow and they want to know more. Don't you?

"Think of this book as an unboxing of the all unconventional and unapologetic queerness that exists within our ranks because there is no right or wrong way to be LGBTQ+. We contain multitudes and understanding this is the only way we will survive the challenges of the next decade."